3 Things you Must Do to Integrate all Your Eclipse Season Lessons Now!

Woohoo! The first Eclipse Season of the year is over (almost 😁!!). And now that the chaos of the past month is starting to settle, you’ve got some super important work to do, to make sure you extract and integrate all the healing and wisdom you were meant to receive, during the extremely transformational season!

I know this past month of Eclipses has felt long and intense for so many of us (whether you were consciously working with the eclipse energies or not). We came face to face with our biggest fears and emotional triggers... relationships went through massive shake ups (and maybe even endings)... and some of our big goals for 2021, seem to transform overnight!

And as the intensity of the season starts to die down, and life begins to re-stabilize, the tendency is to want to just move on from it all, dive into something new, and enjoy the Summer, without looking back!

But I caution you against being too quick and eager to just move on from Eclipse season now….

Because, one of the biggest ways we rob ourselves of healing, growth, and transformation is by jumping from one cycle to another in our lives, WITHOUT TAKING TIME TO REFLECT BACK ON THE PREVIOUS JOURNEY & INTEGRATE ALL THE LESSONS!

Just as farmers take time to harvest their crops, enjoy the fruits of their labor, and clear the fields at the end up the growing season… we too must take time now to HARVEST our own “fruits” and lessons from Eclipse Season, before beginning anything new.

When you skip the work of “reflection” and “integration” (and dive immediately into something new), you end up:

✔️AT BEST, missing opportunities for healing and growth, only to have to repeat them later. While also limiting how quickly and easefully you can manifest and create changes in your life.

✔️And AT WORST, totally misinterpreting the lessons and wisdom, and walking away from Eclipse season with even more non-serving stories, patterns, and wounding.

Now, you may find yourself wondering, “So, how does one go about doing this work of harvesting and integration? 🤔”

I’m glad you asked!

Here are 3 STEPS TO HARVEST AND INTEGRATE LESSONS, after every single Eclipse Season (or at the end of any relationship, project, or experience).

1. CELEBRATE🎉

We have a tendency to obsess over our mistakes and how much further we must go to get to some ideal version of success. Meanwhile, we completely neglect to acknowledge and celebrate the hard work and progress we have made!

When you DON’T pause to celebrate all of your hard work and progress (no matter how insignificant it seems), you find yourself in a perpetual state of “not enough-ness”. It also creates a false sense that you’re in a never-ending race with no finish line… which is exhausting!!

When you DO take the time to consistently pause to celebrate and feel proud of yourself for your hard work and wins, your confidence, self-love, and energy levels start to skyrocket!!

2. SEPARATE THE WHEAT FROM CHAFF🌾

In order to harvest wheat and make it digestible, you must first separate the edible part of the plant (the wheat), from the inedible part (the chaff).

Similarly in your own harvest work, after celebrating the things that feel easy to celebrate, it’s important to also acknowledge and honor anything you feel was a “mistake”, “failure”, or didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to (the chaff).

And then, separate out the attached wisdom and lesson in that “mistake” (the wheat). Remember, there are no failures in life… only experience and feedback! SKIP THIS step, and you miss out on lessons, only to have to repeat them again and again, until you finally digest them!

DO THIS step, and you’ll learn, grow, and successfully manifest quicker than ever before!

3. FORGIVE💛

When I was a new life coach just starting to work with clients, I was shocked to see how much shame, guilt, and resentment everyone seemed to be carrying around as baggage, every single day of their lives! And I believe this is directly related to our struggle with forgiveness.

When you DON’T regularly practice forgiveness (towards yourself and others), you end up collecting shame, guilt, and resentment from every experience that doesn’t work out perfectly (which, let’s be honest, is most of them). And then you bring that heavy emotional baggage to every future relationship and experience, unconsciously sabotaging it with your unhealed shame, anger, and resentments.

When you DO consistently forgive, you release pent up shame, resentment, and anger before entering something new, which prevents you from poisoning new things, before they even have a chance to get off the ground!

And so in this post Eclipse season period, I lovingly urge you to first take some time to rest + recharge yourself (because Eclipse season has been 😳)…..

And then, roll up your sleeves and do the powerful work of REFLECTING on and DIGESTING all the synchronicities, breakthroughs, (and breakdowns!) from the past month. Because this INTEGRATION work is the key to how much you transform, heal, and manifest this year!

Want support harvesting and integrating your own Eclipse Season lessons now?!

Check out the ✨ECLIPSE BREAKTHROUGH INTEGRATION EXPERIENCE✨ which includes a ✔️workbook of powerful journaling questions, ✔️a personalized oracle reading, and ✔️a live community ritual, to help you reflect and integrate your greatest Eclipse lessons!✨

Full Moon I Ching Wisdom {September}

Full moons are always an energetically potent time, ripe for bringing about great transformation. They're also known for stirring up emotions, to help shine a light on your blocks, so you can release them and create more flow and alignment in your life.

This month, we've got a full moon and a lunar eclipse. So it's an especially powerful time to gain insight and more easily create any shifts you've been craving in your life! To assist us in utilizing this month's full moon energy to create shifts, I asked my favorite oracle and spiritual tool, the I Ching, what energies are most potent now, and how we can best use them. (fyi: the I Ching speaks in a language called hexagrams)

And it answered us with two Hexagrams, #16 "DELIGHT" and #17 "FOLLOWING".

I've noticed a trend with clients and friends I've spoken to lately. They've got a clear picture of what they want. They're visualizing it regularly and working really hard to achieve it. They're putting in long hours, saying no to things that hold them back, and being mindful to uncover any mental blocks that could stand in their way. They're doing the work, but something just feels off.

And when they take a moment to reflect, they realize that while they're more committed to their dream than ever, they're not actually having fun creating it.

They've forgotten a very important and fundamental truth. They've forgotten that enjoying the journey is is an important part of the life, because life is the journey...not the destination.

“You think that the goal is to be over there, and we say the goal is the journey over there. But the goal is the fun you have along the way, on your way over there.”

— Abraham-Hicks

Too often we think some goal will bring us the happiness we seek, only to get there and find we're still not happy.

So you're now reminded to come back to what truly DELIGHTS you. What was it about your original dream or goal that lit you up?

When you close your eyes and picture yourself in your dream scenario, what are the core feelings you notice?

Do you feel Free? Advnenturous? Connected? Loved? Ease? Joy? etc.

And when you think about your journey thus far to create your dream scenario, what are the core feelings you've been feeling? Do they match the feelings above? Or are they more in the realm of Stressed, Overwhelmed, Fearful, or Anxious?

The I Ching hexagram of Delight, reminds us that if we're waiting for the manifestation of our dream scenario to feel those desired feelings, we've got it all backwards. 

Instead, it's by working to cultivate those desired feelings on a daily basis, that we'll get to our dream scenario with more ease.

By doing things daily that create those desired feelings in you: 

• you'll enjoy the creation process (aka. your life) more,
• you'll be in a more open energetic state to receive guidance and synchronistic opportunities,
• AND you'll get "there" faster. Even if "there" doesn't look like how you originally imagined it would.

So get back to those desired feelings that truly DELIGHT you....on a deep soul level. For me it's adventure, freedom, and deep connection. I started this online spiritual business to connect on a deeper level with women, to create more freedom in my life so I could travel and feel adventurous. But after some time pushing forward, I realized I felt disconnected and confined sitting behind my computer working all day, and I felt bored and stale...not adventurous at all!!

Once I had that realization, I realized that I didn't have to wait until I could take regular trips to far off places to feel free and adventurous, nor did I have to wait until I was ready to lead women's groups in by business to feel deeply connected. If I chose to, I could create those feelings on a daily basis starting now!

Here's what I did, and what you can do during this full moon too.

1. Visualize your dream scenario and tap into what your main feelings are in it.
2. Grab pen and paper, and write down each feeling core feeling across the top of your paper (leaving space below each one to brainstorm).
3. Now, go one by one, and brainstorm things you can do now that would cultivate that feeling in you. Be creative and be open to different possibilities.

So for me it was a vision of me working my dream job as a spiritual mentor and traveling the world to teach and meet new people. This vision brought me feelings of adventure, freedom, and deep connection. While I'm not at my dream scenario yet and was starting to feel stale and disconnected as I worked to create that vision, I knew I could start creating those feelings right now regardless of my current outside circumstances.

To create feelings of adventure and freedom, I began scheduling myself an hour to take a walk every day. I'll drive my car to a new part of my neighborhood that I'd never been, park, and just start walking (after dropping a pin to mark my starting point on my phone!).

I love the feeling of taking in new houses, new smells, and even of getting lost after wandering for awhile. Here are some pics from my adventure today. I even discovered a creek a couple miles from my house!

Images by Brandi Grooms, brandigrooms.com

And to create the deep connection I'd been craving, I became a founding member of a new local women's networking group. I started working closely with other like-minded women to plan events and create a community of local high-vibe entrepreneurs.

It's been so much fun! And I'm now feeling that sense of  connection I craved on a daily basis!

If you stop pushing yourself kicking and screaming towards your goals, tap into those feelings that actually bring you delight, and allow them to guide you throughout your days, you'll find so much more ease, happiness, and success in your life. 

Give it a try and let me know how it goes in the comments below!

Full Moon I Ching Wisdom {August}

Full moons are always an energetically potent time, ripe for bringing about great transformation. They're also known for stirring up emotions, to help shine a light on your blocks, so you can release them and create more flow and alignment in your life.

To assist us in utilizing this month's full moon energy to our advantage, I asked my favorite oracle and spiritual tool, the I Ching, what energies are most potent now, and how we can best use them to create growth and change in our lives. (fyi: the I Ching speaks in a language called hexagrams)

The answer it gives us is Hexagram #61, "CONFIDENCE WITHIN".

Over the past few years of writing on this blog and working with clients, I've started to notice a unifying thread among those of you attracted to my work. Most of you crave personal growth and deep soul alignment. And even if you don't realize it yet, you're just not content settling for mediocrity in any area of your life. Sure, you may get stuck there from time to time out of fear or the need to feel safe....but eventually you hear your soul's longings to grow and finally seek out change.

This month's message from the I Ching is for you change seekers and personal growth junkies. Especially those of you currently hiding out in the safety of mediocrity. Like a snake shedding a skin that no longer fits, it is time to transform!

And one of the most critical traits needed for the path of transformation and achieving personal greatness is CONFIDENCE.

Not just any confidence, but that deep soul, confidence that grows through experience, wisdom, courage, and trust. The I Ching calls this, "CONFIDENCE WITHIN".

If you're serious about creating a life of deep fulfillment and becoming the best you can be, you've got to unlock that powerful quality of "confidence within". 

“We can not do anything of significance until we believe in ourselves. You have to know what you can do, you have to be confident in your core values, and you have to be willing to act. Then there is Confidence Within. Accomplishments create more confidence, and more confidence creates greater success.”

— The Living I Ching, Deng Ming-Dao

But how do you create confidence when you feel you don't quite have any yet?

This was a question I had not too long ago. I did google searches and bought books on "confidence" hoping to absorb some of that magical quality through the words on the pages. When that didn't work, I eventually realized that confidence was actually already within me.

Confidence is something we're born with that can lay dormant if we allow it to, through fear and hiding out in safe and mediocre circumstances for too long.

The path to awakening that dormant inner confidence is through ACTION. As the I Ching says, "Confidence increases when there is progress." 

THE POWER OF BABY STEPS

As a sensitive person who's struggled a lot with fear and anxiety, I realize that the idea of pushing out of your comfort zone to take action can cause even more fear and anxiety and stop you dead in your tracks.

So the key for me in awakening my confidence within, has been taking consistent baby steps over time. 

You don't have to transform your life overnight. For some of you, leaping off a giant cliff to create change may feel invigorating and exciting. But for others (like me), hopping off that stone may be all you can manage right now, and it's enough!

Any step outside of your comfort zone (no matter how small it may feel) will awaken more of your confidence within. With consistent baby steps your confidence will grow. And pretty soon you'll be hopping off boulders, and then eventually that cliff won't feel as scary!

TAKE ACTION (some questions to incorporate into your full moon ritual): 

• Where in my life am I allowing fear to keep me stuck in mediocrity? 
• Now visualize what you want instead. Ask yourself "If I had a magic wand and all the confidence in the world, what would be possible for me?" (don't forget to tap into the feelings of that picture)
• Now visualize a baby step you can take. Something just out of your comfort zone to feel like a stretch, but not too far out that it causes panic, contraction, and shut down.
• Visualize yourself doing it successfully with ease, confidence, and any other feeling you crave.
• NOW GO DO IT!! You've got this!

If you need help doing a full moon ritual then this free FULL MOON RITUAL GUIDE is perfect for you!

And if you're still feeling stuck and can't quite stir up the clarity and courage to take that baby step, check out my personalized I CHING CLARITY SESSIONS. That's exactly what they're designed for, and full moons are a powerful time to gain clarity anywhere in your life.